Is there a support group for parents trying to put their kids through 2nd grade, particularly math? Y’all, I’m struggling. I’ve said this before, but I can get an A in college Stats II, but I cannot teach my son 2nd grade math. I’ve googled more math techniques that I can even count. I don’t understand why he cannot just DO THE MATH, instead of having to create a brand new problem from his first problem, then solving the new problem to get the answer to the first problem. (are you following me?) The thing is, he can see the answer simply.. but it’s when he has to do all these extra steps that he messes up. “Why can’t I just add these two numbers together?!” I don’t know, buddy..
Bless his heart. HE HATES MATH. And I can’t say that I blame him, I actually hate it too. We enter each evening with frowns and whines and stalling.. it’s miserable for everyone. Tristan used to love school, but lately his affection for it has turned quite drastically. Most mornings he asks if he can stay home from school, because he doesn’t like school anymore. I miss my school-loving buddy!
He has struggled in math from what feels like the beginning of the year. He doesn’t get very much math homework sent home, so we have been trying to create math homework for him to do. We tell him he has to practice, like Daddy practices golf. We’ve found some great worksheets for FREE on Pinterest that we’ve been using, but it’s slow going. He was doing wonderful in everything else, so we stopped focusing so much on his spelling and reading and started devoting the majority of his attention and homework time towards math. His math grade has gone up, but his other grades have gone down. (parent fail) So, we are trying to revamp our approach again.
As parents, Shelby and I are discouraged. We feel like he hangs his head just about everyday when it’s time to go to school, and then when it’s time to do homework. I get text messages 2 or 3 times per week sometimes from his teacher letting us know what he’s doing wrong or letting us know about his attitude. This may have something to do with why we feel so discouraged as parents. We coach him and try our best to encourage him at home, but I have no idea what it’s like once he gets to school. (we ask him every single day to tell us about his day.. his favorite answer “it was good”…) Then I get a text message about him “sighing and moaning” when he has to do his work. Well, I see that same exact attitude at home.
Shelby and I are going to try a few different things over the next several weeks. 2nd grade has been so hard for us. Tristan’s entire mood / attitude / personality has changed this year. It’s not as happy as it used to be. That’s so sad on his momma. I feel like we are doing our best to keep our heads above water just hoping and praying for the end of the school year. I’ve been talking to his teacher a little bit this week and we are going to try and work together to think of a solution / plan for Tristan. She said that the entire school is struggling with the attitude that Tristan has. A lot of the students are feeling the same way. Part of me is so thankful it’s not just Tristan, but the other part of me is sad because what on earth is going on?! How many other parents are just frazzled and discouraged and worried about their children this year?
Shelby and I were both public school kids, and have no plans to take him out of the public school system. I know things aren’t like they used to be, but I still have hope that my children will get a great education and be able to have great teachers. We just want the best for Tristan, and for Kate when she starts this fall. As parents we want our children to be successful and to be happy. This is just our stage of life right now. Hopefully, we can turn it around.