I have a friend named Angie who occasionally talks about something called “self-care”. The thought of this intrigued me so much, and being that the person who’s usually last on my list is ME, I thought I’d look in to this a bit more!
Being a mother, wife, working full time, whatever it is you do – life takes over and you soon realize that you’re doing less and less for yourself. You are sort of on auto pilot, thoughtlessly going through the motions day after day, and after a while you start to feel like you lose yourself a little bit. This is very much me.
I am soooo blessed. My husband, my kids, my family, my job .. all of these things are worth my time and attention. But while I’m giving all of those things my attention, I’m failing to give myself attention. So, that’s something I feel like I need to work on in order to function at my highest level and be my best self!
I’ve been learning, throughout looking in to this more, that self-care isn’t just soaking in the tub with a face mask on. Self-care is so much more, and sometimes it can be a little uncomfortable. It causes you to look at yourself, like REALLY look at yourself, and see where you need to improve. What’s toxic in your life, what’s pulling you down, what’s keeping you from being YOU? I feel like if we can rid ourselves of all the “chains” we have ourselves tied down with, we can really live to our fullest potential.
For me, self-care may look like skipping the movies with my family to sit at home and do NOTHING. It may be creating an exercise plan and actually sticking to it. It may be unfollowing all of those “perfect life” Instagram accounts that always make me feel like I’m not good enough. It may be sitting in the tub with a face mask on and reading a book long after everyone else in the house has gone to bed. It may be telling myself some harsh truths and encouraging myself to change.
Self-care may look different for everyone, and depending on our season of life or our needs, our self-care habits may change throughout the year. Maybe you do just need a manicure, or a face mask, or a coffee date.. or, maybe you do need to let go of toxic friends, or leave a job that’s not really for you, or reevaluate the direction your life is taking.
Sometimes my expectations of what life should be get the better of me, and most weeks I end it with the thought that I went another week and didn’t accomplish the things I wanted to. I think for me starting out, I need to take a look at those expectations and stop allowing myself to feel like I’m failing. I need to give myself a little grace, wake up tomorrow and pick back up where I left off. All is not lost.
What self-care things do you do for yourself? I’d LOVE to hear about them!